Emotions, Lies and Bondage Breakers
I received an exceptional amount of feedback on the Emotional Outlook Questionnaire with remarks including everything from, “Wow, this is great!” to “I flunked emotions.”
Emotions are an interesting thing. We wrongly consider some good and some bad, when in fact, emotions are just emotions. It's what we do with them that matters. In conjunction with emotions, we often find that it gets complicated by the lies that we believe. Emotions can settle into our body systems and wreak havoc with our health. Remember how you'd get a stomach ache just thinking about having to give a speech in front of the whole class?
Below is a sampling of emotions and lies for you to consider and then review the flower essences that can help you move into emotional health.
GUILT: There is true guilt and false guilt. True Guilt would be something like, I wrongly accuse someone of something and I need to apologize and make an amends. False Guilt might be that I sent someone to the store for ice cream and they got into an accident and it's my fault they were injured because I sent them to the store and now I can never forgive myself.
GRIEF: Some people never allow themselves to start the grieving process and others can't figure out how to stop it. Guilt could be tossed in too somewhere. Left unresolved, grief tends to settle into the respiratory system and the heart. Grief comes in many venues: death of a loved one, death of a dream, loss of a job or health, grief over betrayal, or a missed opportunity, and the list goes on. The big lie may come in with feeling that because you are a christian, you shouldn't feel this way, you shouldn't cry so that you can be strong for everyone else, or you shouldn't be sad because they're in a better place, complicating the grief with false guilt.
ANGER: This has many faces. You may have the anger of righteous indignation because helpless people are used and abused. Or you may be angry because the whole world is against you and nothing ever goes right for you. One is based on truth and another on lies and a gross generalization. Anger can be a red flag to you that someone has crossed a boundary and you need to protect yourself. Anger in and of itself, is often not the real underlying emotion. The actual emotion may be rooted in fear, hurt, helplessness, resentment, bitterness, being taken for granted, a need to protect yourself or someone else, or feelings of unworthiness. Anger can also be the result of unattainable expectations where you must determine which of the expectations are reasonable, unreasonable, self inflicted, dictated by culture, a belief system or your family system.
Natures Sunshine (please see Affiliates page to order) has developed a line of seven different flower essences for emotional health. Each one is designed to help you acknowledge, process, accept and express the emotion in a constructive way. They are designed to bring the emotion out. Use one formula at a time.
Keep Cool: Designed to assist the body with feelings of anger and irritability and to help control anger, fear, grief and to calm the temper. Designed for controlling domineering personalities.
Find Strength: For people who tend to suppress their anger. It may give you the emotional strength to stand up for yourself.
Release It: For those who need to release grief and let go of past victim-hood or sadness.
Open Heart: May help to assist with the ability to love, for those who suppress grief or who lack empathy or compassion for others.
Be Courageous: Excellent for those who have fear, need help making decisions, moving forward in the direction they want to go, need aid in self confidence, have indecisiveness, uncertainty and nervous tension.
Be Response-Able: This can help you to be aware and to take charge in a responsible manner by helping you with self-defeating behavior.
Distress Remedy: Designed to balance or center an emotional state. Great to use in stressful situations.
These liquid formulas come with an eye dropper so that they can easily be dispensed directly under your tongue. Another great way to use them is to mix with water and sip throughout the day or mix with water, put into a spray bottle to mist throughout the house or office.
Flower essence formulas – don't let your emotions keep you in bondage. Experience Emotional Freedom.
This is not meant to replace counseling or medical intervention when warranted. It is simply an additional tool for integrating your total health and wellness program. For further study consider the following two books: The Lies We Believe and The Lies We Tell Ourselves, both by Dr. Chris Thurman.
If you are unsure which remedy you should start with, please schedule an appointment via phone or in person and I'll walk you through a series of questions to help with that determination. See the CONTACT page.